From the moment you get the shrilling scream down the phone you will become intoxicated by the joy being experienced by the precious friend that has waited so long, or not so long (but its all relative right?) for this very special day. Cloud nine sounds blissful, so enjoy every minute with her and hide your green eyed monster. Jealous BMs are the ugliest kind!!!
I am quite a sop, especially for the romantics, and i absolutely LOVE hearing proposal stories even if i don't know the couple in question, and the most recent engagement i heard still gives me goosies so thought i would share...hope she doesn't mind.
i want to live and die for this ring :-)
My friend, Lets call her Clair, has been dating her boyfriend, lets call him Zack, for yeeeaaaarrrssss now, i think she mentioned 9, but I'm almost positive its longer than that. They are like bum and underpants, inseparable, best friends. They have been living together for quite some time and Clair had been chomping at the bit to take the next step in their relationship, not too pushy, but whats the odd hint here and nudge there. Anyway, she works most weekends, and recently had a full weekend off (her last for the entire year) so she thought that this could be IT. After receiving an invitation to dinner on Friday evening with her darling, her hopes sky rocketed and she dashed out to get her nails done for the ever-important facebook engagement pics (cannot have dodgy nails!!!). She then raced home to do some dolling up, with sexy panties and a new outfit only to be whacked in the face with the smell of pleather and oily ribs at...SPUR!!!!
Not managing to hide her disappointment, Zach questioned her about her subdued attitude during dinner. When she admitted her expectations he understood and explained to her that it wouldn't be worth her getting her hopes up, it would all come in time, and not a day before mid November as this was when the ring Designer he was hoping to use would be back from holiday. She wiped her tears away and resigned herself to an end of year engagement and mentally prepared for her Saturday evening when Zach was due to introduce her to his new boss at their housewarming party at an exclusive estate on the North Coast of Natal.
Zach shot off to work early on Saturday morning and agreed to pick Clair up on his way later on that afternoon while she agonised over what to wear to meet the boss, what to speak to the boss about, what to impress the boss's wife with, etc etc. Zach arrived on time and they made their way to the estate in Umhlanga. Upon arrival at the lavish house, Clair voice her confusion about why there were so few cars in the vicinity, he brushed off her concern while walking towards the door when he pulled out a front door key and opened the door to an entrance hall FULL of white roses and Lillies and bent the knee with a box FULL of gorgeous bling.
he had cooked her the most gorgeous meal, filled the house with all her favorite things, including new clothes (to avoid taking her own and causing suspicion) and cossy for the jakuzzi over looking the ocean, and booked four nights of the most romantic engagement weekend she ever could have wished for. So much thought, and very clever planning to make sure she was surprised. he outdid himself :-)
Soooo, back to the real world....post engagement
"Millions and millions of years would still not give me half enough time to describe that tiny instant of all eternity when you put your arms around me
and I put my arms around you." ~Jacques Prévert
Soooo, back to the real world....post engagement
Accept your role as BM gracefully and START PLANNING IMMEDIATELY because you know that's what she has been doing for the past 24 hours. Ideas, themes, colours, styles blah blah blah blah, its like a headless chicken running around in her skull, so make a date for coffees or cocktails with the bridal team to meet up so you can discuss ideas to ensure you are all on the same page.
TIP number 1- don't be pushy with your own ideas, always remember this is HER day and you will wear, do and say what SHE wants. Remember this at all times, otherwise you lose any say in future planning. Trust me, if she thinks you will be too opinionated, she just wont ask your opinion and surely you want some sort of say when it comes to your own attire?
Chapter 1b - The Engagement party
Short chapter, but an important one nonetheless. While you will not be in full BM swing as yet, you are still expected to help with the planning and setting up of this occasion. It's also a BRILL opportunity to meet the rest of the bridal party and to shotgun the hottest groomsman to dance with. Also Use this party to memorise important family members names and get to know the ladies you will be partying with at the hens party! Attendance is compulsary, unless you are on a different continent (which I often am), as the bride will be asked about her BMs and it wont look good if you arent there (unless you are in a different country ;-)).
TIP number 1- don't be pushy with your own ideas, always remember this is HER day and you will wear, do and say what SHE wants. Remember this at all times, otherwise you lose any say in future planning. Trust me, if she thinks you will be too opinionated, she just wont ask your opinion and surely you want some sort of say when it comes to your own attire?
Chapter 1b - The Engagement party
Short chapter, but an important one nonetheless. While you will not be in full BM swing as yet, you are still expected to help with the planning and setting up of this occasion. It's also a BRILL opportunity to meet the rest of the bridal party and to shotgun the hottest groomsman to dance with. Also Use this party to memorise important family members names and get to know the ladies you will be partying with at the hens party! Attendance is compulsary, unless you are on a different continent (which I often am), as the bride will be asked about her BMs and it wont look good if you arent there (unless you are in a different country ;-)).
